Tuesday, February 26, 2013

When I Opened a Bottle of ...

When is the perfect time to open that special bottle of wine? That was a topic of conversation recently with friends as we dined and wined - one of our favorite past time. In fact, we were enjoying a special bottle - courtesy of the friends - as we talked about the very topic.

As wine enthusiasts, we all have few of these special bottles sleeping in our cellar. It might be a bottle of 1982 Château Mouton Rothschild, a 1971 birth year vintage red from California, a bottle of the wine served at your wedding, or a bottle of wine with special memory. Or it just might be bottles from your favorite winery that you are keeping for special occasions. We buy these bottles with excitement, anticipation and high expectation; yet we find reasons to force ourselves to defer the ultimate enjoyment of actually tasting the wine and let them sleep in our cellar until that perfect moment that we hope can live up to the high expectation. The truth is, the more we wait, the harder it becomes to open these bottles, because they become too special to be opened.  We allow the wine to play the leading role and find ourselves trying to create the perfect setting to match the wine.

As I look back, some of my most memorable special wine moments were memorable because of the people and the story that we shared while drinking the wine. Its not so much about the wine that I remembered, but the stories shared and friendships made because of the wine; and because of the stories and friends, I also remember the wine. The special wine became memorable because it stepped aside from its leading role and stepped back into a supporting role; but paradoxically it ended up being the shining star.

Just the other day, I opened and drank a bottle of 2000 Niebaum-Coppola Estate Cabernet Franc with friends. It was an ordinary weekend evening, nothing special about it, except that we were enjoying the evening shooting the breeze. We were very much delighted with the wine and will always remember that evening. I'll remember the wine not because it was a special wine; not because it was the right moment; but because we can now share stories about the evening with friends.

Few years ago, I was visiting Tokyo to see Wife M (before she became Wife M). We were dating long distance - Tokyo/NY - and it was my turn to travel. We had dinner at a French restaurant at the top floor of a skyscrapers near by Tokyo Station. Our table had a stunning view of the Imperial Palace. Obviously, it was a special evening and I remember it well, although the food was forgettable. I also remember the evening quite well because we opened and drank a bottle from my favorite winery that I had brought with me from NY - a bottle of 2005 White Rock Claret. We still talk about that evening, how we had the restaurant to ourselves at the end of the meal and how we had a pleasant conversation with the restaurant's sommelier about the wine - even past their closing time.

Its not about the right moment. With wine - whether special or not - it is always the right moment as long as you have someone to share it with. It could be on an ordinary weekend with friends or could be with someone special with an added bonus of a sommelier. Wine is meant to be drunk. So what's holding us from opening those special bottles? Nothing - go out and drink up.

Back to the wine at a family friend's home. It was a wonderful Napa Valley Cab. Full bodied but needed some time to breath. But after it had some time to inhale, it really opened up. Loved the wine. But I will always remember the moment, because of the stories and friendship that the wine brought; but would not have remembered if we were there because of the wine. Thank you A&H!!




Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Valentine's Day - What Women Want...

Valentine's Day 2013.

Everywhere I look, I'm constantly reminded that Valentine's Day is fast approaching. WSJ had an article or two everyday for the past week reporting on the business of romance. Every other banner ad is by 1-800-FLOWERS reminding me to send flowers to my Valentine. FB asked me whether I wanted to surprise my Valentine by sending a $1 cookie. Bakeries (oops, sorry patisseries) are sending me e-mails about their special Valentine's Day gift boxes of sweets. Oh, and can't forget Open Table, kind enough to send me a list of restaurants in the area with tables available two days before Valentine's Day. There is no doubt that expectation is building up for men to do something special for women in their lives.

This all begs the question: do women really want what the commercialized material world is telling men what we are expected to give to our Valentines? Two dozen long-stem red roses that arrives in a FedEx box? A box of chocolates from Duane Reade? A romantic dinner where the chef has already decided the menu for the night and boot you out after 2-hour dinner so that they can get through another seating? Lingerie that never gets worn except once?

What do all of the above have in common? They are universally accepted methods of expression of our love and appreciation to the women we love (maybe not the last one). By the act of purchasing and presenting these gifts, we are telling women that we love them enough for us to go out of the way to make them feel special on this special day. But don't we express our love and appreciation regularly, even on not so special days? Maybe not in the form of gifts and dinners, but certainly in other ways, we let women know how much we love them. If so, do we really need to do something special once a year just to please the material world that we've conformed to the commercialized society?

This all sounds logical to me. Why do I need to do something special once a year when I let my Valentine know that she is loved every day. But the reality is - love can never be explained or understood by logic. So back to the question, what do women really want for Valentine's Day? They want to be reminded that they are loved and make them feel special - even if its done everyday, it is never one too many - whether the methods are conventional or unconventional, or submitting to what's expected by our peers and society. But then what do I know about what women want?

I'm going to check 1-800-FLOWERS to check what the extra service charge is to order flowers the night before Valentine's Day. 

Happy Valentine's Day!